Monday, May 11, 2015

Mother's Day

Mother's Day was extremely low-key. Even for us, haha. Saturday morning through early afternoon Mia ran errands with David, they had a lot of fun, but close to the end she became oddly quiet. By the time they came home, she just wanted to snuggle up with me. I was growing suspicious, and sure enough, before I knew it, she was throwing up all over me! Eww, poor girl. The rest of the day was spent snuggling, being watchful with a bucket, and changing out blankets. She and I spent the night on the fold out couch, trying to keep liquids in her. About 4:30 in the morning, she popped straight up and said, "I'm hungry and thirsty" and ate half a burrito and drank some water. She slept quite a bit after that.

 By morning I was feeling a little put out, after being up most of the night I had to make my own coffee, grr. Everybody else slept in, because "Mother's Day".  I cut myself a piece of peanut butter cheesecake and grumbled a bit. Finally everyone started getting up, David was sweet and went to get me chocolate croissants and Dutch Bros coffee. He and the kids gave me my presents; the flowers in the white vase, a portable phone charger (I had borrowed Rachel's while she was visiting, so handy!!) and a drill of my own to keep in the house, haha! I just laid on the couch all day with Mia, who would get up and run around for short spurts, then crawl back up and sleep. I watched several movies on tv, which was kind of nice, but usually something I enjoy more during stormy or rainy weather. I had been planning to start sewing a quilt for my bed, buy, hey. What better way to celebrate Mother's Day than being a mom!  Later in the night Scott came by after work, he's just started cooking at a pub and is really enjoying it. He brought me the smaller glass vase of flowers and this hilarious "MoM Hefeweizen" made with rose petals. He wrote a really beautiful, sweet letter on the card he gave me, which I will be keeping! Such a sweet kid, we struggled with him so much when he was young, he was so filled with hurt. So many days were spent just begging God to help us get through the moment, not to mention the day. To help us to not just *react* to him. I've seen so many children/grown children acting out today, and so many judgmental people complaining about adults not controlling their children. I kind of get it, but we live in a time of such a mixed understanding and expectation. We put our kids through so much and get mad when they don't know how to cope. Everything is someone else's fault or because of some condition, anyway. Morality has been tossed out the window, being akin to a judgmental, self-righteous kind of people. 

How would one "control" their child without beating them,anyway? Why should anyone be "controlling" their child? Silliness. Why can't people focus on raising children who love and respect people, make good choices, but have grace and compassion when they fail? Those children won't need to be controlled, only led. Today it's judgmental and wrong even in churches for christians to show concern for a fellow member falling away. Morality has never been a bad thing, it is protective and nurturing when done without hypocrisy and judgmental attitudes. We live in a time when few people can recognize the difference between "judgmental" and "having judgment". A time when what we want is more important than what is best for us. A time that treats teenagers like children who are supposed to know how to be functioning adults upon high school graduation. As difficult as Scott's youth was, we learned a lot about parenting and taking a different path. Having him is what gave us the conviction and strength to homeschool our other kids. We learned how important a healthy heart is, Scott was in so much emotional pain that school was genuinely unimportant and just silly. Although I am not against public school (on the contrary, before we moved back to Astoria, we had a wonderful school, with really wonderful teachers), I have seen firsthand how ill matched many schools are with most of today's kids. I'll go on about that some other time, I didn't really mean to go on in this post, but it is good to see that trusting what I knew about my son and us. I allowed him to drop out after his "Sophomore" year (he in no way had enough credits to ever graduate on  time, and here, if a student takes longer than four years to finish high school, they are considered a dropout), and it was the best decision I could have made for him. He moved out, dog-paddled his way through life for a few years. He will be 23 in June and has already lived his hard years - not that hard things might not still come to him, of course, but his emotional well being is so much better than it ever was. He loves his family so much, and can express it now. He is an intelligent man, and should he decide to get his GED or even diploma, I know he'll be surprised at how easy it will be for him. Even without either, he is doing the job he wanted to do. He's always enjoyed cooking and has had an easy time getting the job he wants. He's going to be trying to get a job on a fish processing boat (still cooking), it will be a sacrifice because he would be out for months at a time, but it is a job that pays very well. His very sweet girlfriend is supportive of him, which is huge. In the mean time, he was recently offered two local jobs, both knowing he was going to be trying for the job on the boat, and willing for him to come back after he's done. 
Back to yesterday! I'd seen these pillowcases on ebay, unfortunately they were for bid only. I generally avoid bidding like the plague, I prefer Buy It Now! The blue is the color of my bedroom walls, so I've been watchful. There was only one bidder all week, and they were at $8.99.  The bid ended yesterday, and after only one bidder for a week, there were four others by evening. I finally threw my bid in, with a top bid of $40. A little steep for pillowcases, but I figured... Mother's Day (big sheepish grin). I didn't want to look after the bid closed, and was still feeling a little iffy about the $40 if I happened to win. Would David kill me over $40 pillowcases, haha? I finally checked, and I won! For $14.00!!!!! Now that I feel pretty good about! I can't wait to finally get our room together. Planning to start on my quilt later today, but must get the kids set up with their schoolwork first. David is picking up another project for me after he gets off work today. One I know he's a bit stressed about, but I'll share that tomorrow. David made steak and eggs for dinner, and it was so good! He had wanted something fancier or take out (I usually love Chinese takeout for small holidays) but the dinner he made completely hit the spot. I really did have a lovely Mother's Day, and after getting better sleep last night, I do feel better today, anyway. Only a couple wake-ups with Mia through the night, then David quietly got himself ready for work without waking us up, so we got to sleep later. 

How was your Mother's Day?


  1. Belated Happy Mothers' Day!! Your flowers look lovely. I'm glad Mia's feeling better and you've had a better night. Scott sounds like a lovely young man, and it's all credit to you as parents. I hope his new job goes well. The pillowcases are really nice and only $14 instead of $40-- what a great Ebay win! X

    1. Thank you! Scott really is, and though there were plenty of times we could have done better by him, I love seeing that it really is so important to focus on being genuine with them. Of course, as I type this, Mia is outside screaming at Emma, haha! Owen, whining about something.

  2. Michelle- Your mother's day sounded like a roller coaster ride. Still it was good though, huh? Getting to snuggle with a sick child, is what Mother's day is about. Getting to reflect on your son... the man-child, is what it's about too.
    Your description of him... you could have been describing my oldest son. He struggles with his emotions. He definitely is sensitive to others... but when he is bugged about something, it tears him apart. He is very intelligent, very gifted musician... Music pumps the blood in his veins. He just turned 27... I am so grateful as a mom to have him. He's been through so much too. After this week he is finally getting some much over-due help that he needs. I'm praying for him.
    I will pray for your son too. Becoming a man is so hard now days... in a world that is full of such foolishness, and childishness... and no real men to look to for encouragement, bravery and example. It's no wonder-- this country is in such a state.
    ...sorry soap box.
    Your flowers are pretty. and I love your pillow slips. I grew up calling them pillow cases. But after I became close with my mother in law, I heard her call them pillow slips. She embroidered many sets... and they were so simple yet so pretty. Not like the ones you have here... but still pretty. I started calling them that too... because of their delicate beauty.
    Slips. it just seems so natural, doesn't it?

    hope you're having a good week.
    take care!

    1. I do like pillow slips! It is a lovely name for them. I'm so happy your son is ready for help, that so often is such a hard thing in itself! I will add him to my own prayers. I agree with you completely about the state of our country and our lack for good examples of men. I really did have a wonderful Mother's Day! Even though I never wish my children ill, I love the snuggling and the "I want mommy" - good clingy, lol.

  3. oh what is a mom but one who cares for her child when she is sick, even though you are tired the next day, on Mother's day! Glad your day went good anyway. Thanks for sharing your story about your son. Hope his new job goes well. We homeschooled our children for years. Started our daughter in the fifth grade and all thru high school, and our son the complete k-12! Now he's married with two children and they are homeschooling. Keep on supporting your son in positive ways, and praying for him. Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting! It was good to hear from you again! I had a good Mother's day, out and about, I posted it on my blog, maybe you saw it. Take care!

    1. Thank you so much for the sweet comment!! I am enjoying your blog!

  4. I hate it when little ones are sick! You can just see it in their eyes. They don't sparkle like they usually do. The mom kicks in no matter what day, and you were a wonderful mother to hold her and put up the not so fun of cleaning up after her. She will always remember how her mom cared for her. One of our sons was a bit of a trial, but now he is an amazing father of three boys and one girl. Wouldn't you know it, one of his sons is giving him a run for his money. But must admit, he sticks to his guns much better than we did. We were kind of push overs, still are! lol!

  5. Haha, I do hope Scott "has one just like him" someday - he was such a sweet little boy, no trouble until his dad and I divorced. I just pray he has a strong marriage so his littles don't have to go through such troubling times, too!!